I checked my sent folder trin and it says no messages...but I definitely sent a message to tobias...strange?

Sent messages are only saved if you check the box below the message text input box where it says save a copy to my sent box

If you didn't check that box it will not appear on your screen

If you want me to check it sent I can check the database directly using phpmyadmin rather than the site

Welcome bud 

Sorry Yogi m8  i meant what Shane  said , you got to put a tick in the  box lol.